Disorderly Content • 6th August 2024

Where's Bruce?

Last Monday, I heard the sound of an incoming call through Instagram, and it lit me right up. Thank fuck, I thought; just the person I needed seventy-two hours after my boyfriend walked out on me a la oneway flight to NYC—of course, Bruce intuitively knew and was calling on me to give bitchfest. He is the only one who could understand the trapped and lonely feeling of a vagabond birdy with clipped wings—even though he has no kid keeping him from his old one-way plane ticket ways. He'd understand...

#parentingSLACKS • 15th July 2022

Vol. 7: Letting Go of Ego

“Ego-based mind can dominate us; who we are as parents, friends, sons, daughters, and community members. It represents that part of ourselves that identifies with our personality, self-esteem, accomplishments, skill, and perceived weaknesses; everything that encompasses false self.”

Disorderly Content • 16th May 2024

That Time I Was a Child Bride…

“Twice, I was a wife. Well, one of the two was legally binding, anyway. Ironically enough, the first was both illicit and the most ceremonious and expensive. The time I married my brother's step-kid after roommates turned bedmates, there was no requirement for signed parental permission when applying for the official marriage license. Although, there ought to been; let's be honest! No guests were in attendance for that one, and there was no dress; just him and me, my seven-month-pregnant belly…”

#parentingSLACKS • 22nd July 2022

Vol. 8: Emotional Sobriety

"Although coined by Bill W., co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous, the term "emotional sobriety" applies to anyone with a sympathetic nervous system, regardless of whether you're afflicted with addiction. Emotional sobriety is a body/mind phenomenon. It encompasses the ability to experience and talk about feelings alongside learning to live life in balanced ways so that both the mind and the body can live in harmony. As we sober up emotionally, we expand our ability to tolerate what we're feeling, to live through fierce emotions without acting out or self-medicating."

#parentingSLACKS • 19th August 2022

Vol. 12: The Psychology of Procrastination

“Although we do many things habitually and non-consciously, without the ability to schedule, choose, and execute actions voluntarily, we would lack aspects of mental functioning that many consider central to what it means to be human.
But, more importantly, and in practical terms, we would often fail to get things done without volitional regulation; we would remain in a procrastination loop.”

Disorderly Content • 1st May 2024

The Walk of Audacity

"The walk of shame is never pleasant. But you do get used to it. A New York City walk of shame isn't half-bad, save for when you inevitably wake up next to a bike messenger somewhere out in Red Hook, asking yourself why the hell you wore the Chloe slingbacks with the five-inch platform out for a night of doing rails off the lid of a dive bar toilet tank again. And don't think for a second you're taking a hot shower before wandering the concrete jungle in search of your own bed..."

#parentingSLACKS • 26th August 2022

Vol. 13: Healthy Humility

“For some, the topic of humility can conjure up images of restriction and bondage, but the invitation to humility is incredibly freeing.
It's one of those simple but not easy principles and, not surprisingly, has much to do with our stress and anxiety levels.”

#parentingSLACKS • 2nd September 2022

Vol. 14: Gratitude

“Implementing gratitude has helped tremendously with my mental ailments, such as anxiety. A few moments of self-reflection on something I am thankful for is enough to slice through my toxic thoughts. That's because gratitude activates the limbic nervous system in a way that regulates emotions and puts a damper on the worrisome chatter of the mind.”

#parentingSLACKS • 23rd September 2022

Vol 17: 5 Ways to Level Up as a Parent in Recovery

“We avoid death traps and jump headfirst into things on the promise of reward. Sometimes we stand tall; other times, we shrink under pressure. And, inevitably, the moment comes to level up, but only after facing a terrifying beast and kicking his sorry ass.”

#parentingSLACKS • 30th September 2022

Vol. 18: How to Train Your Monkey Brain

“ Now, as our brains are the most complex structure in the known universe, let's keep it simple and describe your brain as if it has two characters living inside of it. One is sensible, positive, organized, and considerate—we'll call this your human mind. The other one we've been talking about, who lives in the primitive part of your brain, tends to be judgemental, negative, emotional, and selfish. Zen Buddhists, amongst others, call this part the monkey mind.”

#parentingSLACKS • 14th October 2022

Vol. 20: Guilt, Remorse & The Shame Spiral

“Suppose we don't address our issues with shame. In that case, we allow our emotions to fester—silently, secretly, begrudgingly—and eventually, we begin projecting and shaming others, which can get ugly quickly when we are the primary caregivers of small children.”

#parentingSLACKS • 11th November 2022

Vol. 24: The Science of Sleep

“The foundation of the well-known scientific premise for sleep evolution builds from the idea that we were awake and evolved to sleep. But what if it's the other way around? Why do we assume that we evolved sleep rather than that sleep is the defacto state of all birthed life on planet earth, and it's from rest that wakefulness emerged and became?”

#parentingSLACKS • 17th November 2022

Vol. 25: Mental Health & 7 Ways to Improve It

"We often try to do 5,000 things daily to keep our mental load balanced and our inner peace in check, but this can lead to adverse outcomes. Instead, we're more likely to see long-term, sustainable success by laying a solid foundation of actions and mindsets — cornerstones that offer daily support and provide a sturdy base to build upon over time."

#parentingSLACKS • 25th November 2022

Vol. 26: The Introvert's Guide to Friendship

"Friendship is one of the most critical relationships in our lives; buddy bonds provide an essential source of social support. In addition, a strong network of friends can help cushion stress, loneliness, anxiety, and other potential mental health problems.
Research shows that people with close friendships are more likely to experience positive emotions and live with greater satisfaction. So even one solid homie can do wonders for your mental health!"

#parentingSLACKS • 2nd December 2022

Vol. 27: Imposter Syndrome & Self-Sabotage

"We know that Imposter Syndrome is a direct route to Self-Sabotage, but what causes us to doubt our worth so madly in the first place?

Perfectionism is the leading indicator of Imposter Syndrome; typically, people who experience one also experience the other."

Love What Matters • 12th December 2022

‘The most unlikely teacher.’: How our dog taught me to love my mother unconditionally

“I answered my mother’s phone call that night nearly twelve years ago because I was drunk––the only time I liked to talk on the phone, despite hardly ever remembering any details of the conversations the next day. This time was different. I remember it well, all thanks to the hysteria in her voice that immediately killed my buzz..."